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I respect men who respect me and respect my limits. How a man can say he respects you when he says, you'll have no choice in a matter that affects your body, is beyond me. What is it he respects about you, exactly, and how does he show it?
To take it a little farther, if a man told you it was his decision to urinate into your mouth, and that he was going to do it to you whether you liked it or not, would you feel respected? But you see, Sarah, by giving him carte blanche with no phrazle limits, you open the door to something like that also. Perhaps that's his method of disciplining you, eh? But you have no say, little girl, so grin and drink up! After all what's your problem? It's not going to harm you!
Think seriously about what you are accepting and what it could entail if you have no rights in the situation. Think seriously, also, of what example you are setting for a new person who is not yet sure what the parameters should be.
To them I say: You have the right to consent or not. You have the right to withdraw consent without him threatening to end the relationship (emotional blackmail). You have the right to have limits and to have those limits respected. Insist on it. A lot is at stake.
"Pat"
by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 20 - 23:03 | reply to this comment
Consent and Trust
Pat,
I wonder when I read this if you have read the some of the articles from the site which are not on the front page. From what I can tell Stephen and Noone have consent from their wives, to do as they see necessary in their own uno online relationships. This one by Stephen in particular points out how he and his wife met, and why his wife is obedient to him. From what I can see there was clear consent on her part and she knew exactly what she wanted from Stephen in their relationship.
You seem to understand consent differently from how I do. I think there is nothing at all wrong, in an adult relationship, to have an agreement of non-consent. There is nothing keeping any of us, men or women, in our relationships if we really wanted to leave, if we really did not consent. People are comfortable with different amounts of control in their relationships. Why does that anger so many people? Noone and Stephen are not trying control you. No one here is. So what if there are women who like to be spanked for not dusting or staying up late? If that turns their crank what is it to you and me?
Sexes Share the Same Relationship Dealbreakers
Contemporary Male Mating Strategies
Pop Culture Feeds Rape Culture
Hookup Culture Rightly Laid at Feminism’s Feet
Hookup Culture Not to Blame For Our Single Status
A Drunk Man Never Lies
Chicks Dig Altruists
Retro Bowl College
I respect men who respect me and respect my limits. How a man can say he respects you when he says, you'll have no choice in a matter that affects your body, is beyond me. What is it he respects about you, exactly, and how does he show it?
To take it a little farther, if a man told you it was his decision to urinate into your mouth, and that he was going to do it to you whether you liked it or not, would you feel respected? But you see, Sarah, by giving him carte blanche with no phrazle limits, you open the door to something like that also. Perhaps that's his method of disciplining you, eh? But you have no say, little girl, so grin and drink up! After all what's your problem? It's not going to harm you!
Think seriously about what you are accepting and what it could entail if you have no rights in the situation. Think seriously, also, of what example you are setting for a new person who is not yet sure what the parameters should be.
To them I say: You have the right to consent or not. You have the right to withdraw consent without him threatening to end the relationship (emotional blackmail). You have the right to have limits and to have those limits respected. Insist on it. A lot is at stake.
"Pat"
by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Dec 20 - 23:03 | reply to this comment
Consent and Trust
Pat,
I wonder when I read this if you have read the some of the articles from the site which are not on the front page. From what I can tell Stephen and Noone have consent from their wives, to do as they see necessary in their own uno online relationships. This one by Stephen in particular points out how he and his wife met, and why his wife is obedient to him. From what I can see there was clear consent on her part and she knew exactly what she wanted from Stephen in their relationship.
You seem to understand consent differently from how I do. I think there is nothing at all wrong, in an adult relationship, to have an agreement of non-consent. There is nothing keeping any of us, men or women, in our relationships if we really wanted to leave, if we really did not consent. People are comfortable with different amounts of control in their relationships. Why does that anger so many people? Noone and Stephen are not trying control you. No one here is. So what if there are women who like to be spanked for not dusting or staying up late? If that turns their crank what is it to you and me?