Um, wouldn’t it be a good idea to talk to the WIFE?! I see interaction encouraged with the kids and with male friends, but the marriage itself–including the spouse herself–is really important.
2Kenny S April 16, 2009 at 4:14 am
Talking to the wife would be very helpful, but it is not the main issue. To live a healthy successful life he has to get over his fear.
The ironic thing is that time and time again you will here about people in these situations and the insecurities of the other partner breed problems that weren’t there to begin with. Doubt and Fear are powerful feelings that can wreak havoc on any relationship.
He should focus on getting his head straight. Ask why would you fear her leaving? Is it the end all, be all? Is it you can’t provide with out her? Understanding you and confidence in your self is key here.
3Brian April 16, 2009 at 5:56 am
Great response, Wayne. Spot on. Insecurely obsessing is behavior that WILL eventually get her to leave him. Becoming a confident person will not only make him worry less, but his confidence will be attractive to his wife, and will make her want to stay. I suggest he focuses on his physical fitness and his children, the two easiest ways to boost confidence. The rest will fall in to place.